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Good Lord Willing

(Penned anonymously as told by Ronald "Tex" Cauthen, who died June 1.)

I’ve always loved horses and was fortunate to find a vocation that allowed me to work with them. Thanks to the GI Bill, I attended Michigan State’s school of blacksmithing. After a long apprenticeship under a tough Dutch mentor who taught me the trade in greater detail, I was a capable farrier.

Alleged is likely the greatest horse I had the honor of shoeing, and I did that while he was a leading sire at my friend J.T.L. Jones Jr.’s Walmac Farm. He was a tough horse, so tough that he gnawed off one man’s finger, and he tried many more men to the edge of their wits and sometimes their courage. But we had an “understanding” and he allowed me to safely take care of his feet so long as I showed him his due respect. Mutual respect is something we humans often forget to honor, and we can learn a lot from a horse—I sure did.

I also learned that faith and family are the most important things in this world. Work is important, but it runs a distant third and is solely the vehicle to facilitate the first two. My faith took a long time to cultivate, as I was angry and resentful with God after my mother was killed by lightning when I was 16. That loss spurred my independence—I was on the road with a cheap truck, trailer, and two horses headed to the bright lights of Louisiana shortly thereafter. I galloped, ponied, and even trained horses to make a living until I was drafted, serving as a weatherman during the Korean War.

Afterward, I returned to the track and worked hard by day and ran sometimes harder by night with an exciting, “on the edge” list of characters, gamblers, and horsemen. When one of them, a bookmaker and “past-poster,” offered me a job as his “muscle” to collect debts and presumably break a few legs on occasion, I knew I had come to a crossroad in my life. I could keep playing in the fringes and be swept along toward dishonesty and vice, or change my course. I chose to become a blacksmith.

Shoeing horses let me make an honest living around the interesting mix of people Thoroughbred racing draws, most important among them my wife of nearly 50 years, Myra. Together, we built up a small farm where we started our family and were blessed with three healthy sons who shared our love of animals and racing. My lessons to them weren’t always as eloquent as I would now have preferred, but they learned the point most of the time. A rather crude (yet very successful) example is when I gave Steve and Doug, who were 9 and 6, each a foot-long cigar to celebrate Kerry’s birth in 1969. They spent a day or two puffing away until they were green to prove their mettle, then never smoked again. As I got older, and hopefully wiser, I’ve tried to give gentler guidance to family, friends, and others who’d listen.

Though sick off and on for five years, I’ve been off medication and feeling much better for most of the last year or so. I like to work and mulched trees the week before I passed away while taking a nap. I hate wasted words, so my message now is simple: Faith and family are our most important truths. If I’ve taught anyone anything, I hope it is this. You don’t know how many days or hours you have left with your loved ones, so tell them you love them, and be clear about it. Tell your friends, too.

Trust in things you can’t fully understand, share them with family and friends, and you will eventually see a clearer picture and breathe easier. Give those you care about a big bear hug, even if it seems awkward, until you feel the way a cat feels when he’s purring like crazy. That warm, comforting and awesome feeling comes from something that is greater than us, and to share it is a gift.

I think about my decision at that crossroad so many years ago and know I chose well. My life in horse racing has been a journey that continues on through Myra, our sons, and their love of horses. Because of faith and family, and, yes, also many horses, I cross under the wire a winner. Good Lord willing.

18 Comments:

This may be one of the best stories ever told.

Barbara 09 Jun 2009 2:45 PM

As the beneficiary of many a Tex hug, I know the love he gave and received will be his greatest legacy.

One of my favorite of Tex's sayings was a normal response to, "It's good to see you." (Which it always, always was.) With a smile, he'd say, "It's good to be seen." We didn't need the benefit of the hindsight we now have to appreciate how good it truly was to know this man; he taught us to appreciate every moment.

alleged 09 Jun 2009 3:06 PM

Even though I only had the pleasure of meeting Tex once (and was not fortunate enough to receive one of his hugs at first meeting), I nonetheless know that he and Myra are very special people to raise three boys like Kerry, Doug, and Steve.  Truly a life well lived and a wonderful legacy.

Rob Whiteley 09 Jun 2009 5:31 PM

What a beautiful and inspiring story!

alybar 09 Jun 2009 6:23 PM

Very Nice comment...alleged !!!

CRob87 09 Jun 2009 7:53 PM

Wow! What a life well lived, and excellent advice to us still here on this earth. RIP Tex, you most definitely crossed as a winner!

sweet terchi 10 Jun 2009 5:37 AM

"Those who finish the race receive the prize. Well done, good and faithful servant, enter into your rest,"

da3hoss 10 Jun 2009 7:46 AM

The true measure of any man is the role he plays as a father. To look at the job he did in raising three outstanding men like Steve, Doug and Kerry is a testament unto itself. The entire Cauthen family should be proud.

JimboScully 10 Jun 2009 9:13 AM

Never met the man, but I did meet Steve Cauthen when he was at the height of his racing fame, after the Triple Crown. I saw him in the shedrow getting ready to work a horse for a trainer in our barn, and I went up to him and told him how much I admired his riding. The Kid had such wonderful hands, and a totally quiet way of riding. He smiled at me shyly and said, "I couldn't have done it without the horses, ma'am". That said it all to me about how he was raised. He was at the pinnacle of horse racing, had won the greatest prize we have, the Triple Crown, and it was still about the horses, not him. Tex did a great job raising those boys, not one of them has a big head. And given their accomplishments in racing, it wouldn't be surprising if they had. It's all about the horses for the Cauthen boys, and they got that from their daddy. God speed, Tex, you left a grand legacy and we thank you for it. At least, I do.

Stephi S. 10 Jun 2009 10:31 AM

One of my earliest tasks in the horse business was to hold weanlings for Tex to trim at Prestonwood Farm. Even though I was a greenhorn at the time, we did well thanks to Tex's soothing way with a horse. Reading His story, I believe He found the real truth.

Jeffrey Zahn 10 Jun 2009 11:44 AM

gosh after the lump went out of my throat i came straight to the computer to comment vince lombardi said the same faith and family i never met you tex but iwish icould have you were and are a true winner i hope someday to see all the horses faces and their reaction whenever you crossed that rainbow bridge  

tom obryan 12 Jun 2009 2:50 PM

I don't know who wrote this, but s/he deserves a Pulitzer.

merrywriter 12 Jun 2009 6:27 PM

My father passed away on April 26th. This lovely article is a comfort to me.

Soldier Course 14 Jun 2009 12:39 PM

How inspiring and what a terrible loss for the world.

His words could not be truer as we need to be so thankful for every single day we have here on earth with our faith, our family and our horses.

ThreeGoodLegsStable 15 Jun 2009 3:43 PM

My farrier for my TB's died 1-1/2 years ago.  He knew Tex well and they shared the same philosophies.  Family and faith are good to have on top.  Having respect for the horses is so very important.  People - don't forget to Respect The Horse.  One other thing; find a good person to shoe your horses and Respect The Farrier!!!  

MLS 15 Jun 2009 4:20 PM

My husband gets Blood-Horse, and I don't share his interest in racing, but when he told me I had to read this, I did, and I am so glad I did. What a succint and beautiful good-bye to an obviously loving, caring man who leaves a true legacy....one of kindess and good advice to everyone!  His message about faith and family are the most important thing in life; AND hard work and character!

Susanna 18 Jun 2009 4:18 PM

A wonderful testament to a good man.  Rest in peace Tex.

Doug 27 Jun 2009 10:51 PM

tex has been gone 56 days and his smile shines bright in my memory. i have read final turn/good lord willing many times and i cry each time. tex was a special person and anyone that met him will agree with me. my life is better because i knew tex. may his memory be for a blessing. rest in peace my friend.

stuart hodesh 26 Jul 2009 4:30 PM

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